Blah Blah Blah

Blah blah blah blah blah wookie blah wookie wookie blah blah boo boo blah. Blah gack blah gack blah gack blah. WOokie blouie blahb blabh grapf da da.

Don't worry your computer isn't fritzing out.

That is the problem with communication. I can tell you exactly what I was seeing. I can share in (what I think is) detail what I was seeing... and all you hear is blah blah blah wookie blah blah blah.

Someone asked me recently who's fault it was when these miscommunications happen... The answer that I can truly arive at is no one directly. It is the problem of the medium. I cannot put you in my body and let you see what I see.

How do we fix it? Well we can't fix the medium, but understanding it gives us the pieces to know possible ways around it. Pursuit becomes the only answer, and not just by the hearer. As the speaker and communicator we must pursue what our "audience" is understanding. We must be sure that they see things from the same perspective that we do.

Then we must be willing to drop our perspective and empathize with theirs.

IT'S HARD AS ALL GET OUT! BUT IT'S worth it.

The final key is you have to be brutally honest. When you feel like someone is blowing smoke at you, you have to tell them. Not that they are blowing smoke at you, but that that is how you feel. You must believe that their heart is not to be an idiot, and that no one wants to intentionally cause you problems, but that they have something inside that really sees their perspective as the right one. Go after that and you will see Blah blah blah blah blah bllack and white. It will become clearer and clearer and the stronger and more honest the relationship, the quicker it is to get to clear communication!